Sometimes people come to me and say, Madrone, you always tell us what's a waste of our time, but when is something a big deal? This is a good question. Here are some guidelines for knowing whether something should be a big deal in this life. Actually there is only one guideline.
Does it get you respect from people you respect? If it does, then it's a big deal.
Now I may think the people you respect are a bunch of idiots, so it wouldn't be that big a deal to me, but you wouldn't care what I thought, most likely. Now it's possible that you might respect people who think each other stunada, in that case, you probably need therapy, or write me a letter about it, it's cheaper.
God bless, Donna