Listen up, I can't help it if this disturbs some of you, all this talk about threats. What can I tell you, the world is the world, if it was perfect, you'd be happy, but you wouldn't know it, because you can't know what happy is without sad. You'd just be. So leave me alone about it, it's not my fault.
Ok, so here's some rules.
1. Never make a threat that the threatenee thinks you don't have the nerve to carry out.
2. As much as possible make threats you know you won't have to carry out.
3. Follow through, only as a last resort. But don't half-a$$ it if you do. Nothing worse than that.
4. Learn how to threaten to threaten- that's the best. If people wish to avoid your threat to threaten, you're golden.
God bless, Donna
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Threats. Not just anyone can make a threat. Making threats is an art form. If you can't make a decent threat, you might as well put a sign on your head that says, DOORMAT. I mean, really. Now you're going to say, Madrone that's terrible. What if everyone went around making threats like you recommend. Wouldn't the world be awful?? with everyone going around and smacking each other down? To which I say, if you make a decent threat, you never have to lift a finger. A person who knows what they're doing makes life easy and simple. It's the people who don't know what they are doing who end up with lawsuits and restraining orders.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Ok so you still are wondering what respect is. Let me put it this way. Here's an example of what it isn't.
My neighbor down the block was married to a real bachagaloop, my hand to god. He would rage if the soup was too hot, he would rage if it was too cool, he would rage. Every one stepped around him in fear, even the dog. And the dog was big, with sharp teeth. As far as we knew he never raised a hand, only his voice, but still. He was mean. Hard as nails. But he was a good provider, so what could anyone say? A good provider who doesn't beat is not that easy to find. He fell over one day, kapow, heart attack, and after we were all back from the cemetary, my neighbor announces to us that she was going to take the insurance money to take tango lessons. And everyone applauded her.
Monday, February 09, 2009
Sunday, February 08, 2009
So the question comes up, if respect is such a big deal, what exactly is it? How do I know if I have it, how do I know if I'm getting it. Sometimes I am surprised at the questions I have to answer, but then I think, of course I have to answer them. That's why I'm the Madrone. If people knew these things without asking..well the truth is they DO know these things, but they don't believe it unless someone like me tells them.
So respect. It isn't 100% love, and it isn't 100% fear, but it's a combo of the both mixed with admiration for the integrity and spine of some who has savvy. There's actually a formula that goes like this
Respect = L [Ad(Int + Sp) + Sa]/F Do the math.
God bless, Donna
PS- Coming soon, examples for those of you who stunk at algebra
Saturday, February 07, 2009
Sometimes people come to me and say, Madrone, you always tell us what's a waste of our time, but when is something a big deal? This is a good question. Here are some guidelines for knowing whether something should be a big deal in this life. Actually there is only one guideline.
Does it get you respect from people you respect? If it does, then it's a big deal.
Now I may think the people you respect are a bunch of idiots, so it wouldn't be that big a deal to me, but you wouldn't care what I thought, most likely. Now it's possible that you might respect people who think each other stunada, in that case, you probably need therapy, or write me a letter about it, it's cheaper.
God bless, Donna
Friday, February 06, 2009
I just got through listening to some TV program where they interviewed the lady who had 8 kids at one whack, when she had six others running around at home. It's not for me, that's for sure, but according to the rules of family, it's nobody's business but hers and whoever she's convinced to go along with her for the ride. Now if she forgets where she leaves one, or decides to make them work sewing machines in the basement to make fancy dresses for rich ladies who don't have kids of their own to sew, people might make a case for stepping in. But short of that, it's not anyone's place to look down their noses at her, or make noises about who can do what.
The main rule of family is NEVER GET IN BETWEEN SOMEONE AND THEIR MOTHER.
This goes for any mother, and any someones, especially if there are 14 of them at once.
God Bless, Donna