Dear Madrone, I want to know something,  I have a friend  who always comes over empty handed. I never in a million years would do such a thing. It's like she was raised by wolves.  Do I tell her that this is wrong? Or what?
Puzzled in Pottsdam

Dear Puzzled, what's can you do? Some people weren't raised right.  That's just how it is. This I can tell you though. If you have been feeling resentment, (and I'm guessing you have because otherwise why would you be writing to me, you would be saying hey that's my friend, that's how she is, who cares) two things are going to happen. You are going to tell her or you're not. Either way you aren't going to be friends for long.  
God bless, Donna